When I Start To Believe in Myself

Self-Love Is A Commitment!

Sola Akins — Fri, 13 Feb 2026 19:17:22 GMT

For so long I’ve found it hard to commit to myself. I can show up for other people, and don’t like letting others down but when it comes to me, it’s a different story.

Why is that?

Why is it the promises I make to myself, I find so easy to let go like they are nothing. When I look back at all the things I have said to myself, told myself I wanted to do, and I didn’t, it makes me feel sad. Sad for not thinking I was important enough or worthy enough to keep my word to myself. I either lost interest, forgot about it, or let other people, or other things take priority, to the extent that I let myself be pushed to the back. I think when you consistently break promises to yourself, and treat yourself like what you want doesn’t matter, it does damage over time. You stop trusting yourself, you stop showing up for yourself, you quietly stop believing in yourself.

I’ve come to realise that commitment is a key ingredient on the self-love journey. The commitment you make to yourself to start showing up for yourself in your life is so important, because without that commitment you fall flat on your face, and forget about you again. People in your life, even the people you love will have no trouble if you don’t keep promises to yourself, sometimes they won’t even know the tings you let go of to help them, or to keep a commitment to them. But it has to get to a point where the promises you make to yourself; you have to keep. The promises you make to yourself must be at the top of your list.

Every time you break a promise to yourself, or don’t keep to commitment, you are telling yourself that you are not important, that your goals and dreams don’t matter. You don’t realise but you are allowing yourself to be the side character in your own story. You are not the side story, you are the main character of your life, and its time you started showing up like that.

The journey of self-love isn’t about anyone else, its about you, and its for you. It’s the way you feel about yourself, and the way you see yourself.

I have decided that I am going to be very intentional about the promises that I keep to myself, and the commitments I make to myself. I have come to realise that each time your break a promise, or commitment you come out of integrity with yourself, and you lose respect for you. I no longer what to keep letting me down, because I deserve more, I deserve to show up for myself in my life. I deserve to make a promise, and keep it to myself, not for anyone else but for me.

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Self-love is a journey, and it’s a lifelong journey, but before you can get to love, you have to like yourself. You have to like the person you are, and the person you are becoming. You have to respect yourself, and how can you do that if you consistently don’t stick to the very promises that you make to you!

I wonder why in moments of doubt, it’s so easy to forget about what I’ve promised myself. Why if someone needs something from me, I forget about what I need and give it to them.

Commitment to your own self-care, committing to the journey means no matter what. It means, no matter what comes my way, no matter what anyone says I am going to keep showing up for you. I am going to love you every day.

Self-love is not conditional; it’s a commitment to yourself. It’s a ‘for better for worse’. Its saying I’m going to love you even on your worse days. I’m going to show up for you even when you don’t want me to, because you deserve that. So, decide to commit to your own self love journey, wake up everyday and choose to love you, choose to prioritise yourself because you deserve it. I know I do, and I hope that as you read this, you realise that you do to.

Episode 14- Why Commiment To Yourself Is An Act Of Self-Love

Sola Akins — Fri, 13 Feb 2026 11:33:58 GMT

We show up for other people every single day.

We honour deadlines.
We keep promises.
We stay loyal to relationships, jobs, expectations.

But what about the promises we make to ourselves?

In this episode, I’m talking about commitment — not the kind we give so freely to others, but the kind we struggle to give to ourselves.

Self-love isn’t just bubble baths and affirmations. It’s discipline. It’s devotion. It’s choosing yourself even when it’s inconvenient. It’s keeping the promises no one else sees.

If you’ve ever said “this is my year” and then slowly abandoned yourself…
If you’ve ever poured into everyone else and left nothing for you…
If you’re ready to stop starting over and actually stand by yourself —

This episode is for you.

Because loving yourself isn’t a feeling.

It’s a commitment.

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Episode 13- I Tried Thinking My Way into a Better Life

Sola Akins — Fri, 06 Feb 2026 10:00:00 GMT

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You can watch every motivational video.
You can visualise. Affirm. Journal. Think positive thoughts.

And still feel stuck.

In this episode, I talk about the part of manifestation that’s rarely explained properly: feeling. Not forced emotions. Not pretending to be happy. But the quiet, embodied sense of safety, trust, and alignment that actually creates change.

Because if your body doesn’t feel it, your nervous system won’t let it happen.

This is a conversation about why mindset alone isn’t enough, how alignment shows up as a feeling before it ever becomes a result, and what to do when your thoughts say “I’m ready” but your body says otherwise.

No pressure. No pretending. Just the truth about how transformation really begins.

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The Day I Realised Mindset Wasn't Enough...

Sola Akins — Thu, 05 Feb 2026 07:56:33 GMT

How many times have you tried to do something, and just fallen flat on your face? I can tell you that I have tried a million times to change my life, through different ways and just end up on the ground. It feels like I’m constantly trying to figure out a way to live a life I love, to live a full life. One where I am proud of myself, and proud of my life. Why do I always end up on the floor of the waste land? They say madness is doing the same thing over again, and expecting a different result. I don’t know if that is true, I think that maybe trying over and over again, and falling flat on your face is part of the process. Its part of the figuring out, one day everything is just going to click, and it will all make sense. We have been made to believe that changing our lives and achieving our dreams is hard, but I don’t believe it should be, I think it should be easy. If you want to change your life, you have to believe that you are worthy of a life changed. You have to believe that you deserve it. If you believe that you deserve it, and that you are worthy, you are halfway there already. The biggest battle of any journey is the journey in your mind, and then getting that thought to drop into your body to feel it. You can’t force yourself to feel what you do not feel. It’s like when you are in a relationship with someone, and they have all the qualities that you want, but you just don’t feel that feeling for them, no matter how hard you try, you can’t force yourself to love them. It’s the same with us when we want to achieve something, we can read all the motivational books, listen to all the podcasts, say all the affirmations, but if you don’t truly feel those words, if you don’t truly believe it in your body that its possible, it will just amount to nothing.

I have spent most of my life living in a body that had become used to settling for less, that had become used to feeling sad, and living with negative emotions, and so no matter how hard I was trying I just couldn’t get to where I wanted to go, I couldn’t achieve what I wanted to achieve. I am now realising the that key, to this, the secret is feeling. Feeling in my body that I am worthy, that I can achieve anything I want, because when I feel I attract more things to feel good into my reality. It’s the feeling that impresses on the subconscious mind. The subconscious mind is the thing that actually controls everything we do. We have the conscious mind that plants the seeds into the subconscious mind, and the subconscious mind grows that seed that is planted in our lives.

If you want to truly change your life, then you have to start protecting your mind, and the things that your conscious mind receives. Being disciplined about what you watch, and who you spend time with. Are there people in your life that just drain you, you know the people that after spending time with them or speaking to them you just feel drained. Or are there TV shows that you watch that have you on edge, and make you feel anxious? All that negative energy is being felt in your body, and then you are just attracting more of that into your life. Start to watch and surround yourself with things and people that make you feel good.

I want to challenge you for the next week, focus on doing things that make you feel good in your body. Eating food that makes you feel vibrant and energised, watching things that leave you feeling happy and inspired, and spending more time with the loved ones that make you feel happy. Be intentional with feeling good and living in that good vibration. Because if you want to truly transform your life, then you have to transform the way you feel about yourself first. You have to feel how amazing, incredible and powerful you are. For so long I lived in the feeling of feeling like I was a looser, feeling like I wasn’t good enough, or I wasn’t loveable, and that feeling created a life that I was very unhappy in. A life of the wastelands is what I call it, and now I’m waking up and I’m leaving that wasteland, and ready to live in the land of abundance, in that land miracles and wonders happen everyday in your life, and they happen with ease. So, make the decision today to start choosing your happiness, and your wellbeing, to actively work on loving you first, and then your life will begin to change before your very eyes. Remember it might take some time to get used to living in this place where you feel great, that’s okay because you have spent so much of your life living from the place where you feel rubbish about yourself, with each time you fall, you get back up, knowing that each step you take, the sadness that you’ve been stuck in, is losing its grip on you, and the happiness is taking a hold of you, and from that place anything is possible. Start figuring out how to truly get yourself to believe with all of your being that its possible. I have been visualising the future I see for myself and my family lately, and that has been so powerful for me, in helping me to feel how real that is, how real its going to be. It allows me to continue trying, to keep going, and to keep working on my believing in me, and my dreams.

Its amazing how quickly your life can change, when you are living from that place of belief in yourself and your dreams, belief that has taken deep root in your body, that its electric!

Episode 12- Resiliance on the Manifestation Journey

Sola Akins — Fri, 30 Jan 2026 15:00:00 GMT

Resilience isn’t about pretending things don’t hurt — it’s about learning how to stay standing when they do. In this episode, I talk honestly about what resilience really looks like in everyday life: the quiet strength behind starting again, the courage to keep going when motivation disappears, and the discipline of choosing yourself even when it feels heavy. This is a conversation about emotional endurance, rebuilding trust with yourself, and understanding that resilience is not loud or dramatic — it’s built in small, repeated decisions to continue. If you’ve been tired, discouraged, or questioning your capacity to keep moving forward, this episode is a reminder that resilience is already inside you, and it grows every time you refuse to give up on your own life.

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Believing in Yourself is So Important

Sola Akins — Thu, 29 Jan 2026 23:30:21 GMT

I’m trying to remember the first time I felt like I wasn’t good enough. I can’t really remember a specific moment or memory, I just know that the feeling of not being good enough has always been there. Somewhere in childhood I adopted the belief that I wasn’t good enough, that who I was, wasn’t enough. I remember spending so much of my childhood and teenage years desperately needing to fit in. I changed my personality to blend in the crowd. In truth most of my adult years I have spent constantly trying to reinvent myself. The problem when you don’t feel like you are good enough, and you live from that place it makes your life very small. You find yourself settling in life, in your career, your personal life, the relationships you have with family and friends. You settle, and tell yourself that, that’s as good as its going to get for you. I know I did! I spent so much of my life looking for validation outside of myself. Needing approval from others, which came from a feeling within me that I wasn’t good enough. I’ve come to a place where I have realised that the most important thing is how I feel about myself. I have to believe in myself first, before anyone else can. I have to think that I am good enough.

The truth is, if you don’t believe in yourself, if you do not think that you are good enough, you will end up living a very small life. You will settle in all areas of your life, and you won’t ever go for what you really want in life. How you feel about you is vital, because if you believe in you, if you believe that you are good enough then others around you will too. When you start to believe in yourself, then you start to ask yourself what areas am I settling in life? What do I really want? Its time that you started seeing how incredible and amazing you are. You are unique, and are one of a kind, and you need to fully to see that and embrace all of you.

Don’t allow another day to go by where you don’t look in the mirror and see how incredible you are right now in this moment. Think of everything you have had to overcome, all that you have been through, and you are still here standing. Its time to live life differently, its time to live a life where you start showing up for yourself. I know I am. I am finally living a life where I believe in myself, and I will no longer settle for less then I know I deserve. It starts with a choice to show up for you, and then the journey begins. It won’t change overnight, but with each step you make, with each day that you show up for yourself that belief in you will grow. Think of it like a muscle, you don’t just go to the gym and instantly have muscles, you build it over time. That’s same way it is with our belief systems, you won’t just wake up and suddenly all self-doubt disappears, it’s a journey. I am still on the journey, and I still have moments of self-doubt, but now I have something else inside of me, a quiet belief that I am special, and no matter how many times I fall down, I will get back up and keep going because I believe in myself, and I know I will make it, I know I will get there. I know that I deserve the best life, and I will not settle for anything less, and you shouldn’t either.

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Learning to Trust Myself (When I was taught not to)

Sola Akins — Fri, 23 Jan 2026 11:00:00 GMT

This episode is about self-trust.

Trusting your heart.
Trusting what you feel.
Trusting yourself enough to listen.

For a long time, I didn’t trust myself.
I second-guessed my decisions, ignored my instincts, and looked outside myself for reassurance.
And without realising it, that lack of self-trust affected everything — my confidence, my self-love, and my ability to manifest the life I wanted.

In this episode, I talk about why self-trust is so important on the journey of self-love and manifestation, and how I’m learning to trust myself again — not perfectly, but honestly.

Because manifestation isn’t just about asking for what you want.
It’s about believing you can hold it.
Believing you won’t abandon yourself when things get uncomfortable.
Believing your desires make sense.

If you’ve been feeling stuck, unsure, or disconnected from yourself, this conversation is for you.

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Sola Akins — Fri, 26 Dec 2025 16:55:49 GMT

This is When I Start To Believe in Myself.

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Episode 10- Your Purpose is Hidden in Self Love

Sola Akins — Wed, 08 Oct 2025 06:29:38 GMT

Before you can manifest your dream life, you have to remember who you are.

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In this episode, I dive into the truth that your purpose isn’t something you find it’s something you remember. It’s buried beneath self-doubt, comparison, and everything you were taught to believe about who you “should” be. When you begin to love yourself not the polished version, but the real, raw, imperfect you your purpose starts to reveal itself naturally.

We talk about manifesting from a place of self-love instead of lack, knowing yourself deeply, and stepping into the life that was always meant for you. This is your reminder that you don’t have to chase purpose you become it.

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Grace for the woman I'm growing into

Sola Akins — Sat, 02 Aug 2025 01:03:24 GMT

When we start our journey to get to where we want to go, it can be hard when we fall down, and its important in those moments to give yourself grace. In this weeks episode I talk about letting go of who you used to be, and seeing the woman you are now. Taking the time to see all the ways that you are showing up for yourself now, all the ways that there has been growth and celebrating that. An important step in self love is grace, giving yourself the grace to fall down, and know that its okay. You've got this, you are stronger then you know.

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Episode 8- How Visualisation My Changed My Life

Sola Akins — Thu, 17 Jul 2025 06:40:37 GMT

In this episode I talk about the power of visualisation, and how its changed my life and is still changing my life. At the start of any journey you have to visualise where you want to go. You have to get that picture clear in your mind, and keep walking towards it. Visualisation is the key to manifesting your dream life.

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Ep 7- Visualising the Woman You’re Becoming

Sola Akins — Fri, 11 Jul 2025 08:41:49 GMT

In this weeks episode, I talk about the power of visualising your future self. The future version of you that has already achieved all her goals, and is living her best life. Visulisation is a powerful tool in giving you the power in this moment, to keep walking towards your dreams, to keep walking towards her.

In the episode, I spoke about a book that I read that is helping me to transform the way I eat and see food: Good Sugar, Bad Sugar- Allen Carr (Easy Way Click the link to buy the book- Full disclaimer I do get a small commision if you buy from my link, but you are of course free to go look elsewhere for the book. Its really good to help re-program the way you see food.

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Episode 6- Unchained- The Power of Walking your own Path

Sola Akins — Wed, 09 Jul 2025 13:15:01 GMT

In this episode I talk about letting yourself be free from the opinions of others. I share the times that I had held myself back because of caring about what others thought about me. The true power is in having a vision for yourself, and trusting the journey, believing that you will get there, and not caring about what others think.

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Episode 5- Manifesting with Integrity and Alignment

Sola Akins — Fri, 04 Jul 2025 16:07:47 GMT

I have spent to much of my life being out of integrity with myself, not listening to my own voice, and not keeping my word to myself. It's only now that I realise how important it it to keep your word to yourself, and listen to your own voice. In this episode I talk about the importance of being in integrity with yourself, and why alignment and listening to your voice are key for manifesting.

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What is Self-Love for Me

Sola Akins — Wed, 02 Jul 2025 09:00:15 GMT

In this episode I talk about what Self-Love is for me, and how my self-love journey begun. I believe that at the heart of a wonderful life is Self-Love, and I want all of you to love yourselfs uncondtionally.

In the podcast I talk about a book I read, and said I would put it in the notes: The book is: Love Yourself Like Your Life Depends on It- By Kamal Ravikant.

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How I'm letting go of who I thought I was

Sola Akins — Fri, 27 Jun 2025 09:03:57 GMT

In this episode I talk about letting go of the stories that we tell ourselves about who we are. I share how my negative stories were holding me back, and how I had to change the story about myself to begin living in my light. If you want to attract your best life, you have to change the stories we tell ourselves about ourselves. We need to be the main characters in our own lives.

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From Doubt to Determination

Sola Akins — Thu, 26 Jun 2025 21:41:57 GMT

In today's podcast, I talk about how Self-Doubt has held me back in my life, and where that came from. I get real about the ways it has impacted my life, and how I'm finally getting free from it, and you can too. Tune in and be inspired.

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Introductions

Sola Akins — Thu, 26 Jun 2025 16:59:50 GMT

Hello, and welcome to my very first podcast,

In this episode I talk a little bit about who I am, and why I am starting this podcast. This podcast is the start of a brand new journey for me, a journey of stepping out from the shadows, and standing in the light. Its the journey of 'When I Start to Believe in Myself'. So, I hope you like it, and are encouraged by it. I touch on Self-Love and Manifestation, but will be going deeper into these topics as the podcast continues.

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